Growing up is tough; we have to learn to deal with unpleasant people, and the experience is, in my experience, fairly unpleasant.
In the last year, I’ve learned that no matter how pleasant you are to everyone else, there is always going to be at least one person that will be rude. Some days, it is really hard to take the high road, it would be so much easier to sink to your antagonist’s level and just be rude right back at them, but it wouldn’t make anything better. If you act rude in retaliation, you might feel better for a few minutes, but you didn’t win, you just caved. You didn’t take the high road and let them wallow in the mud by themselves, and you may have just made your situation worse. I’m not saying we should all go around being doormats, because we shouldn’t. We shouldn’t have to go to work everyday and be made to feel inadequate and like we’re awful at our jobs. We should, in a kind yet firm manner, stand up for ourselves.
Remember that one Hannah Montana episode where Billy Ray told Miley that if you lie with dogs you get up with fleas? BIlly Ray was right. By acting the same way your antagonist acts, you’re letting their venom seep into you. Who wants to carry around anger and bad attitude? Some people may think they’re the bomb because they tear other people down, but I’ve always believed that Luke 6:31, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” and Matthew 5:38-39, “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also,” are the best examples of how to be. I know not everyone believes in God, but I’m sure that most people practice the golden rule, which sounds an awful lot like Luke 6:31.
The point is, the people antagonizing you must not be happy with themselves, so they want to make you miserable, too. Misery loves company and all that. The next time you’re presented with a difficult person at work, at school, or just in any social situation, remember that if you act hateful in return, you’re just giving them what they want. Kill them with kindness people. They might still be rude, but you’ll feel better for it. Rise above it. Let their hurtful words roll off. I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking, “Easier said than done.” Believe me, I know. This post is my way of dealing with my own unpleasant situation, but if you can learn to ignore the hurtful things people say and do, they won’t be able to hurt you anymore, they’ll have lost their control over you.
One last thing! Something that really helped me today, in addition to talking to my mama, praying, listening to “Who Says” by Selena Gomez, and talking to my friends, was a really great quote from Mulan:
So remember, treat your antagonist the way you want them to treat you, if you ignore them they don’t have power over you, and YOU are the flower blooming in adversity, which makes you one of the most rare and beautiful people of all. I know that sounds silly, and I’m sure you’ve rolled your eyes at me more than once by now, but it’s true, and it helped me get through the day.